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How to Manage Zoom Fatigue

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A few weeks ago, I spoke with 26 people in one day: I ran an online workshop; attended a group meeting; had three one-on-one chats; joined a networking meeting involving speed-driven conversations with eight people; and finished the day after another long one-on-one conversation. When I turned off the computer that night, I could barely think. My brain was completely fried.   While talking with 26 people seemed a lot, if I were to transfer the number into realtime encounters, it would have actually not been such a tiring day.  It was only when I woke up the next morning…

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How a role model boosts your courage

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In uncertain times, it can be hard to stay courageous and keep moving forward on a rocky path with unforeseen twists and turns. Sometimes, we need help to muster up the courage to keep going and facing the unknown. While I always recommend asking someone you trust for support, a role model can also encourage and inspire you. When someone has achieved something you admire, it allows you to say to yourself: “If they were able to do it, so can I!” — For example, whenever I feel lonely in my lockdown for one, sad that I have only had…

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Expand your global mind and cultural bandwidth

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As you may already know, I have lived in nine countries, worked in sixteen and traveled in over fifty. One thing I have learned: A tourist wants to see. A traveller wants to learn. A typical tourist visits a foreign country to sightsee and compares what they don’t know with what they know: “This is not how we do it at home. Why aren’t they doing it like us?” — A tourist strongly identifies with a single culture and measures other cultures with the same yardstick. They expect that their everyday habits are catered to even in a country that…

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Love your enemies

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Arthur C. Brooks, author of “Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America from the Culture of Contempt” says: “There’s an important psychological difference between anger and contempt. When you get angry at someone — maybe a friend, a spouse, or a colleague — what that says is, ‘I care about this, and I’m mad because I see that something is wrong and want to fix it.’ Contempt, on the other hand, says, ‘You are beneath caring about.’ Anger ultimately helps us reconcile, but contempt makes permanent enemies.”

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I am still stubborn

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I was a strong-willed child. When I wasn’t allowed to do something or told that I didn’t have the ability to do it, I would do my best to prove the opposite. And while I no longer break a glass door with my fist or read books I was supposedly too young for, I am still stubborn. For example, when it comes to pursuing goals; when someone tells me they are not worthwhile, especially if this opinion is based on a slap-dash assessment.

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Creating Habit of Creativity

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Unless you are someone who was obliged to work over the weekend or who simply cannot let go of work, chances are you have had some time over the weekend to relax and recharge. Taking aside household chores and other related tasks, you will have done something that has nothing to do with work: hung out with friends and family, pursued a hobby, exercised, watched a movie, read a book, had some alone time and did nothing (hopefully). On Sunday afternoon you will have felt refreshed and may have had some insights and ideas into things you were too busy to contemplate during…

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You are a human being, not a human doing

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The weekend is almost here. What have you got planned? Taking care of household chores? Socialising with friends and family? Catching up on work you didn’t get done during the week? All of these are important. The week only has seven days and each day only has 24 hours. You probably would like to add a couple of hours to each day to have time for yourself. Chances are, if you had these extra hours, you’d fill them with something ‘productive’. I remember a study that came out in the late 1980s, which concluded that then, we achieved in a…

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Why the Traditional Leadership Style Doesn’t Work Anymore

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The definition of a leader, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, is straightforward: ‘A person who has commanding authority and influence’. The Business Dictionary is more specific, it includes establishing and realising a clear vision, coordinating conflicting interests and thinking and acting creatively in difficult situations. Nowhere does it say exactly how a leader is supposed to influence and direct. Historically, leaders have relied on established hierarchical structures. Simply put, the higher up they were, the more authority they had, the more they could do what they wanted.  Yes, there were advisors, but if they displeased their leader, they ran the risk of…

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Making Valentine’s Day Last All Year

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Valentine’s Day is the one day per year where expressing romantic love has become almost compulsory.  — If you want go beyond chocolate and roses and learn how you can express your love all year round, here is an appropriately cheesy inspiration video and a booklet with a few practical ideas. Click here for tablet and mobile friendly video. Click here for tablet and mobile friendly booklet.

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12 Challenges of Christmas Part 2: Challenges 7-12

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Challenge #7: How to have a shared holiday celebration Yesterday, I spoke about how much effort goes into preparing for the holidays. Sometimes there is so much work involved that when the day arrives, for some people stress cancels out enjoyment. Why? Because the bulk of the organisation often sits squarely on a couple of shoulders. Here is my challenge for people who spend the holidays with other people: Create some ease by preparing together. It doesn’t matter whether you live alone or with a bunch of people, if the party is at your place, ask everyone you plan to celebrate…

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12 Challenges of Christmas Part 1: Challenges 1-6

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Challenge #1: How to have an honest holiday celebration A lot of people get really stressed about who they ‘have to’ spend the holidays with. They dutifully go along with what they ‘should’ do, what expectations to meet. They get together with people they don’t like, gritting their teeth, unable to enjoy the festival of peace. Here is my challenge: Embrace the Christmas spirit and make a decision to look past the irritating behaviour of people for the time you are together. See it as an opportunity to practice compassion and bring joy to the world. Or, if that is too…

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Why Imperfect Relationships Matter

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Read time: 5 minutes   I have always felt that life was meant to be a journey of discovery, of experiencing and exploring the different facets of existence. A long time ago, I discarded the labels ‘good’ and ‘bad.’ Life just is. It has its rhythms, its ups and downs, its ins and outs, and provides many learning opportunities when we embrace the fact that things are perfect in their imperfection. I have extended this philosophical approach to relationships.    One of my favourite sayings is: ‘We meet people for a reason, a season, or a lifetime’.  I have bumped…

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Is Siri to Blame for the Disappearance of Good Manners?

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Read Time: 5 minutes   The other day on the bus, I asked an approximately fifteen year old school boy, who was completely absorbed in playing on his phone, if he was of advanced age. He looked at me as if I was crazy. Did he have a physical issue? He declined. So, I concluded, he had to be pregnant then. He raised his eyebrows, possibly doubting my sanity. “Well,” I said, “you are sitting in a seat reserved for people who need to sit more than others. And since there is an older person, who could well be your…

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