It’s Week 27 and we are focussing on ‘proud’, a complex emotion with a light and a dark side. Pride, after all, is one of the seven deadly sins.
When pride shines brightly, you feel good about what you have achieved. You are content with who you are and what you do. There is no need for external validation.
When you foster the dark side of pride, authenticity turns into arrogance and hubris. You no longer fulfil yourself from within, you are now comparing yourself to others. Suddenly, healthy contentment turns into bragging, snobbery and, in its extreme form, narcissism. Moreover, you may no longer want to work for your achievements because you feel that you deserve them. Healthy pride connects you with others and you become a role model; unhealthy pride damages your relationships.
This week, I am inviting you to feel into both authentic and hubristic pride. Are you proud of an achievement you have worked for that requires no approval? Or do you feel proud because of the car you drive, your job title, the colour of your skin, your faith or another status-driven identity? Do you need to defend your achievements and overcompensate for a lack of self-confidence? Become aware of the difference.
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